Being married for 9 years and having a child (my son Shane who is 6 years old) I still get questions from people about why I’m not trying for my second child. I wonder why the world is behind me for my life decisions? Is it important to do things according to what others think or say? Is there a plan for such things? So many unreasonable questions but yet some people think they know it all.
When I had my son in 2009, never in my wildest dreams I thought I would be a mom as I was diagnosed with meningitis in October 2008 and was in the ICU for a week and I never thought I would get out of that ordeal! My husband and parents hoped to just see me recover and get back to my normal life. During that time the doctor gives us an unexpected news that I’m 6 weeks pregnant and it was better if I had a baby after my course of medication was done! Oh my, its been only 3 months and I was still on medication and it would continue for a year and before that I get pregnant! Sadly, this wasn’t planned by us but it was a God’s blessing and we didn’t want to think of anything else but the health of the baby.
I was overwhelmed, sad, happy, excited, worried…there were a lot of emotions involved as I wasn’t sure what would happen to my baby and if having this baby was the right thing at this point in my life. I was scared if my medication would affect the baby. I cried as I was truly worried and that’s when my husband told me that we should not stress about this matter but just go ahead and have a baby!
This being one of the reasons, I thank God even today as I have a very caring and supportive husband who stood by my side always. I still ask myself if that was the right time to have a baby? Is there even a right time? I’m a strong believer of God and his plans and till today I never planned anything, even when it comes to having more children, buying a house, getting a job or taking important decisions in my life. Everything happened when the time was right and when God decided it was time for me!
Coming back to the question about having the baby at the right time, there isn’t really a right time. Nothing happens the way we wish or predict. If you and your spouse decide to have a baby then just go ahead, don’t give way for people to decide about your life. You don’t owe anything to anyone but yourself. In this day and age people will disappoint you asking so many things, putting wrong ideas in your head which makes you feel frustrated and upset. Don’t, I mean don’t listen or let these people bother you or let yourself dwell in such thoughts. It’s seriously not worth your time.
These days I only hear of many unfortunate woman facing infertility and miscarriages and it breaks my heart to see their pain. I truly pray for such woman who are lost in hope and wait endlessly for an answer to their prayers. I may not have experienced such but it hurts when I hear such from other woman I can’t thank God enough for all that he has blessed us over the years. My son Shane is truly a miracle baby. I couldn’t share the news of me being pregnant with him as we were worried about my medication and how the pregnancy would turn out to be! Today Shane is 6 years old and he will be turning 7 years next month. God has been gracious to us all these years and I was able to face all my struggles thanks to him.
It’s been 6 years and we consciously didn’t plan a baby because we wanted Shane to feel comfortable and special before he had another sibling in his life. Mind you, Shane wasn’t an easy child but he will always remain our miracle baby. Today it gives me so much happiness in sharing our good news that we are pregnant and expecting our second child Shane is excited to be the big brother and he loves touching my bump.
Requesting all your prayers during this time we are all truly excited for the New Year to welcome our baby our new bundle of joy to make an entrance to this world!